Thank you for your post, you put into words the very reason why I recently made a difficult discision to end a relationsip with a man I loved and whom loved me very much.
yes, he had very difficult past experiences and upbringing, there was a big difference in our social-economical backrounds, which was difficult for him- he even said his parents were losers, so he cant be proud of his family like I am of mine, and was always pissed off when we spent more time my family.
but mostly I left him because of this one:
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Originally Posted by ken nubo  They're very emotionally reactive – small events can trigger anger, despair, and anxiety for them. They bitch, whine and cry but do nothing about it. They take small things and blow it out of proportion. Because small things effect small minds. |
exactly!
he kept getting hurt from everything, I found myself walking on eggs all the time, and when he was hurt he would just leave for 2 days, this happened about once a month, and I would always miss him and take him back.but last time I said- no more! I finally realised this is such a built in pattern, which unless he intensionaly seeks help to change, this will keep going on.
I saw how this influenced his whole life achivements and ambitions, even though hes smart and talented.
I think that anyone can change if they seek to grow.
I wanted him so much to change cause I saw how these behaviors were ruining his life and mostly our relationship, but that only made things worse ofcourse.
My friends and family who knew him dont always seem to understand how I left such a nice loving guy, especially as i miss him alot two weeks later. He did make a very long way from his starting point, but still he had so many "loser" behaviors he hadnt let go of yet (.maybe now he will), and my outlook on life and the way I deal with things was too different to his way