[JimOfferman]

Originally Posted by templanoid

So that laughter is not because I was trying to be funny

You presented a silly assumption as fact and ran with it, which is the basis for many comedy routines.

But most people I know know how to say humourous things that is generally funny and causes others (including me) to laugh. What really depresses me is that I cant find anything to say that's funny, not even in my own mind. I can't really seem to come up with something that I *myself* find funny. I'm just very good at logical thinking and analyzing like those things you see in those scientific documentaries..no emotions, no laughter...that's how it's like inside my brain.

Your (perceived) lack of humor isn't the problem, but your deriding yourself because of that is.

I think that's different because Rowan Atkinson's nature of being funny doesn't come from the way he talks, but the way he acts..which is easy for anyone to learn, imo. But what I'm talking about here is having a humours mind, that can think of anything and turn it into a funny concept. Do you see what I mean?

I can assure you that acting funny is much harder to learn than talking funny and that both are in fact skills that can be learned through practice.

I got to admit, I don't know if I finf myself interesting. I find myself being interested in other things, but I doubt whether I myself am all that interesting.

This really is the root of your problem - your belief that you are not interesting.

Are you saying that I am interesting because every human being can be interesting? But do you think that you could be generalizing a bit here? Everyone is not the same is it?

So unless you are one of those couch potatoes who does nothing else than watch TV and drink soda's all day, you HAVE to be at least somewhat interesting. What are your passions? What are your dreams? What do you do for a living? Why is your room decorated the way it is? Where have you travelled? Whom have you met? Etc.

You have a life that is unknown to me and to the rest of the world and learning about lives unknown is always interesting (aforementioned couch potatoes excluded).

And how will I be able to convince myself when I've never noticed myself in the situation of being interesting to others or being humourous? This has to come from somewhere, and especially I can't make this up..or I feel like I'm spinning something up and lying myself.

You convince yourself by taking long hard looks at all that defines you. Who are you really? Why are you the way you are? Do you plan to stay that way? If not, how will you change?

I agree here. But the fact that I never had one at this stage *is* not the norm and slightly unusual. Which, in a way, thus signify my social inadequacy.

Does. Not. Matter.

I've never had a girlfriend, but I am definitely not boring because of that.

So what would you think is my problem? Lack of confidence?

Definitely an important factor. A lack of self love appears to be a problem too.

Learn to love yourself more than you would love any other. Only if you love yourself first, can you truly and deeply love another. You and your life is the basis for everything else, so start at the root!