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Originally Posted by templanoid  You genuinely thought that was funny? I don't understand how..I was (in my opionion) pointing out what I felt is true. |
Yes, I genuinely thought it was funny and the mere fact that I had a laugh out of it, proves that your assertion is, in fact, not true. Don't you just love logic!
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I really do feel I that I can be funny..but it happens very rarely.
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So you're not a natural comedic. Big deal! Your ability to relate to other people is not dependent on your comedic talents. If that were the case, we'd all be experts in the field by now because all non-funny people would have long since died out as a result of natural selection.
Did you know that the great Rowan Atkinson is actually a
very serious person in real life? I even dare to bet that he isn't all that funny to be around, outside of office hours.
Humor is a skill that can be learned like any other, not a character trait.
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and that shows that a person who can talk well and present themselves in a good way is confident about themselves
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You have caused and effect reversed: a person that is confident can talk well - not the other way around.
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The thing is I don't know if I have social anxiety or not..I feel alright around people...
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The gist here is that you see yourself as boring. Let's start with that. If you don't even find yourself interesting, how can you expect this from others? Sounds a bit unreasonable, dunnit?
And I know that you are wrong. 100% sure. Beyond any reasonable doubt. You are, in fact, very interesting. The challenge that lies ahead, for you, is to convince yourself of that fact. That's your first job. Convince yourself. I wish I could do that for you mate, but I can't.
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...And that maybe the the reason why I dont have a girlfriend or that many friends in general so far, it really does suck when I think about it.
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Whether or not you have a girlfriend or how many friends you have says absolutely nothing about you. Those things are circumstantial. People might find it easier to relate to you if you have more confidence, but that doesn't magically up your friend count.
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Overall I'd say that I'm not a good talker, I can't talk very well and that really hurts to admit.  But I guess that's how you start to improve?
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In principle, yes. Acknowledging the problem is the start of the resolution. But, again, I don't think that not being a good talker is your problem.