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Originally Posted by European38  well I dont think anyone would be able to say I am a bad person but I feel they resent me or don't like me. I think girls are waiting for a chance to not like me so things like the other day I didn't see someone in work when they said hello to me and with that the whole group got bitchy and nasty towards me  if someone didn't see me I wouldn't react like that. I am concerned with what other people think because I really want to feel accepted. I can't change what I feel so I dont know how to get out of it. I realise there are some people who are indifferent but I just can't seem to get there mentally. I dont mind if people dont like me for something that happened like an argument but it's never anything like that it's just for me being me that really offends people |
All of this is
your perception. Were they really bitchy over such a small thing or were they just taunting you a little? I wasn't there, of course, but I'm inclined to say it was the last. Why? Because that is what groups of people do. If someone here in the office misses a colleague when they come in for work, you can
bet we'll be taunting him over it! That doesn't mean we resent or dislike him.
Here's where raising your emotional pain barrier comes in. A little taunting is not going to hurt you in the long run, so don't take offense.
You want to feel respected and appreciated. Again - and I am just going to keep on saying this - this starts with you. Respect and appreciate yourself first. If you do, I can guarantee you that you will be more respected and appreciated by your peers as well. People cannot help but respect those who are proud to be who they are. Such people are a blast to be around!
You can definitely become one of those people.
How do I know this? Because I have already walked in your shoes. I have been the person who was offended by the littlest things. Thankfully, someone told me I could change all that - and I have. Now I'm just passing that gift on to you (hopefully).