Hey Jimoffer man, thanks for the reply.
Yes actually I just nocied her thread about 30 minutes ago and was going through it, I can see some similarities.
Jimofferman: You genuinely thought that was funny? I don't understand how..I was (in my opionion) pointing out what I felt is true.
I really do feel I that I can be funny..but it happens very rarely. I've never been able to observe a situation where I can make people laugh very much out of my own mind..the only times I've really made people laugh is because of relaying some joke or a story that someone else told me...not my own, this makes me feel like I'm not capable of being humorous. Especially when I'm with girls/women, I can not really seem to say something to make them positively laugh.
I've noticed that most of what I say is very neutral or just something "factual" that is never really funny...like a stale statement that people reply with things such as "oh thats cool" or "i see" or something along those lines. It's as if my brain is not wired to say anything in a humourous way
Since my high-school this to this date..I can't remember myself being a humourous person. And when I see other funny people, it makes me think that thy're pretty intellectual when they're able to do that...and that shows that a person who can talk well and present themselves in a good way is confident about themselves..both of which I seem to have problems doing in general social situations.
Now let me correct myself. I agree with you JimOfferman that even non funny people can have a good time. I've had good times by laughing at funny people's joke (and when I laugh, i really laugh hard, as most people who know me can attest)...sorry abotu that, I correct myself. The problem here is for me to make other people laugh..which I can't really seem to do for some reason...
The thing is I don't know if I have social anxiety or not..I feel alright around people..it's just the part where I have to talk to people something that I'm not good at. I feel that when people talk on me one on one, i'm never the one to make them laugh, but the one whome which they have to only talk in a very neutral method that can get easily boring after a while.... yet some of htese people remian my friends...now this makes me think, why? Why is it they remain my friends when I barely make them laugh and only talk neutrally? The only conclusion I can come up with is that the people who are able to be my friends are very nice people that are able to accept me as a friend and not just ignore me. And most of my friends that I know are actually quite funny people too, and in comparison to them I'm very "normal", and I really can't avoid that comparison, when I look at other factors combined (number of friends they have vs. me, them having a girlfriend, etc)
...And that maybe the the reason why I dont have a girlfriend or that many friends in general so far, it really does suck when I think about it.
Overall I'd say that I'm not a good talker, I can't talk very well and that really hurts to admit.
But I guess that's how you start to improve?