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Originally Posted by European38  thanks Jim what you say makes perfect sense to me but I don't know why I am not happy with myself, I think I am a nice person and deserve happiness but I feel worthless when other people don't see me as a good person, this is what effects me the most - what do they think of me. |
So you
do know why you are unhappy with yourself: you feel worthless when other people don't see you as a good person.
Who are these people, really? Your friends? Family? Lover? Colleagues? Or just people in the street?
Having established who these people are, the next question would be: does their opinion of you really matter? Is their opinion of you really what you think?
Do you really believe that there are people who think you are a bad person? If so, why would they think such a thing? What reason can you possibly give them to think that?
If I would venture a guess, I'd say that the people close to you (friends, family) do not think you are a bad person at all. People further removed from you probably don't care or are indifferent - which shouldn't matter to you at all. There are six billion people on this earth, you can't possibly have them all like you (and, quite frankly, you don't want that either).