I don't know, Angela, if mycophile is necessarily mirroring anything. Possible, certainly, but just as possible that mycophile got blind-sided by someone he trusted.
I've personally just recently - VERY recently - had to deal with someone who has continually lied and manipulated me for her own selfish aims and the hurt and anguish it caused was off the scale. What she was trying to hide, oddly, would have been less difficult to manage than the sum of her extra-curricular activities PLUS the avalanche of lies that went along with it.
(That's one of a number of reasons I've been off the boards for a while.)
If I had been told the truth, then I would have been able to make an informed decision about what to do next. But I was denied that because - silly me! - I actually believed that she was being honest. My intuition, my instinct, never hinted that anything was amiss until I quite accidentally discovered the truth.
The last chapter in that particular episode has yet to be written, but I'll be keeping that to myself.
What's the lesson? I don't know. Trust your instinct, your feelings, your intuition? Uh... no. Obviously not. When a woman says she cares about you and will be truthful, should you believe her? (Goes for men too, obviously.) Maybe... but then again, maybe not.
The exhortations, though, like, "What is it mirroring?" sound an awful lot like a finger-wagging, "What did you do to deserve it?" And, personally, I don't really see anything positive coming out of some well-meaning but misplaced guilt induction.
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