maybe it's also fear playing a role, even though she might not realize it. Not only fear that you fail, but fear that you might
succeed. "Rose of Cairo" made some rather drastic changes: quitting her studies, not getting a job and eating up her savings so she could become self-employed. As a result, her bf got angry.
I've noticed that when I make a drastic change, people will line up to say that I'll fail, I have no idea what I'm doing, and ask if I can't just 'be normal'. A few people will do this because they really fear I'll hurt myself, but there are also quite a few that try to hold me back because they fear I might pull it off. because what happens if I do succeed? They'll have to watch me being happy and will constantly be reminded of the courage they themselves lacked. It's better to fall flat on your face than never trying to learn how to walk at all.
What I've also noticed, is that some people actually start copying me. If I live more bravely, some of them get inspired and adopt the same attitude. It's possible that if you live how you want to live, you might rub off on your gf.
