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Originally Posted by charlie1  O and i also found out that they have been calling each other and talking on the phone for a few weeks. Not just once, And she didnt tell me this, her friend did. |
just wanted to respond to the bit about finding out that they've been talking more without your knowledge- don't let that upset you any more than you already are! Probably she realizes that the relationship bothers you, so she's probably trying to not make it a bigger deal than it already is- for totally innocent reasons just to avoid more fighting; if you were less accusatory/controlling/oversensitive about it she might be more likely to be more honest... not to say what she's doing is the best course of action (recently learned this myself), but you can't control her so I'm speaking to your side of the situation... which is that you are only going to push her away by being controlling, and really maybe you just don't love her enough so that's ok... if you really really loved her you'd be more concerned with her long-term hapiness than with your own temporarily hurt feelings and you'd be willing to let her go if that's what she really wanted and you wouldn't worry and overanalyze every other friendship she has