Are you talking to me, Dan? Sure, evaluating the source of what you're hearing is always a good idea, and physical appearance is a part of the thin-slicing we do when we're evaluating what works for us.
But there's evaluating what another person is offering -- that is, distinguishing what works for us, what actions we're inspired to take, who we want to include or exclude in our life, etc. -- and then there's judgements about who a person is: good, bad, whole, what works in another person's life for that person (not you).
Evaluating is determining what it takes to build a life you love.
Judging is cutting yourself off from possibility.
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