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Originally Posted by williamhessian  Thanks for the reply Erin,
How do i effectively empower myself about things I cant control, when the things i cant control are negatively effecting my job, my friends and family, my safety and living situation.
I completely agree with your comments about having children though. I just feel uncomfortable raising them in such a dangerous society. I do not want to over control them, nor let them fend for themselves, but having so many evils swarming this society it seems inevitable that the odds stacked against them may have a negative effect.
My outlook is normally very positive and optimistic. I just really dislike a number of things going on around me. And feel powerless about it. |
I can feel that you have a lot of feelings to express about so many things.
Don't worry, you are loved.
You have to understand that while you cannot control the outside world, it's up to you to guard yourself against it.
Get tools. Get Skills. Get Supplies. Get Resources. Do what YOU must do for YOU.
Yes, outside things can affect us, but we can shield ourselves against them by bettering our own life situations.
Once you learn how to do this, you can thrive even in a crisis.
Most people look at a downed market and think their is no hope.
Smart individuals throw themselves into the dip, or shield against oncoming conditions and see opportunity anyways.
Look, if your airbrushing business (or any business) is going down the tubes, you need to do more marketing for it.
Market yourself constantly or die in a vat of burning money. That's business.
Post revver.com and metacafe.com (producer rewards) videos for extra revenue and advertising.
Offer your artistic services to OTHER BUSINESSES IN THE AREA.
Start a website or blog showcasing the great work you can do in designing advertisements using airbrushing (then perhaps scanning it into photoshop).
SHOW THEM that you can create great ad images and airbrush logos (or any artistic medium).
Your life needs balance, and you need to say "NO" to the things (even the small ones) that are pulling you away from taking better care of yourself, so that you can be prepared for whatever happens.
If you need further help, try the free ebook "The Ten Laws of Being a Man" by Dr. Paul Dobranksy.
I've been coached by him personally and he's been a HUGE help to me as an artist, personal coach, and aspiring video game designer.
He also offers free (and paid) coaching for right brained individuals such as yourself.
here's the link:
The Ten Laws Of Being A Man
Oh and william.
Get your psychology completely together before you start a family. You owe your children that much.
People here who say "Oh go have kids, they're lovely" either don't have a family, or have just by happenstance improved their personal psychology enough to successfully raise a kid.
But, if you have the choice, and YOU DO, GET YOUR HEAD IN BALANCE BEFORE YOU HAVE A KID.
Having a child is a ONE WAY DEAL. The kid will ALWAYS need your resources.
Your money.
Your Time.
Your Energy.
Your Love.
Your Ideas.
Your Strength.
If you do not have these things running at 98% efficiency, do not have children.
I love babies, I love children, I helped raise two younger brothers and have babysat innumerous times.
I also know the reality of it. Yes, they are wonderful, but there's no question about it:
Children are a one-way deal.
You give.
They take.
Untill they are more than equipped enough to give back - which will take longer if you do not have your ♥♥♥♥♥ together.
I'm just trying to give you the raw psychological facts of the matter.
It is not my intention to down the idea of having children, you just need to be ready.
This will sound blasphemous to others in here, but, The law of attraction alone cannot help you raise a family.
Let me say that again.
The law of attraction BY ITSELF cannot help you raise a family.
If it could, all of the massive amounts of repeatable results and research done by modern psychology would have been vaporized by the release of the secret (news to the naive: it hasn't)
If you do not have your psychology, your mind and your life, in balance with real work and real scientific guidance, having a child will make your life exactly one thousand times more difficult than it already is.
Dr. Paul is the best at handling the whole picture of your life, visually, since he's a unification theorist who maps out your mind so that you know exactly what you need to do.
And again, his book is free.