[Alyesha]

I have had a male who came into my life 6 weeks ago, who appeared to be loving, gentle and friendly. I have had alot of low points earlier this year and this relationship seemed to be something special.

However I have found this male to be completely the opposite to how he portrays himself (or how he see's himself). On Christmas I received a few short texts (one could say they where impersonal almost grunts), he had agreed to come over but never responded to my text or turned up. I texted him back how I felt. Heard from him two days later. Things moved quickly again up today when he stated that he would spend New Years with me (this was yesterday) - now he has told me that he is meeting up with friends in town. No suggestion of me being included.

I have also be frought with problems that he getting from his ex's and a friend. This is somewhat off-putting. I have offered sensible solutions to preventing ongoing ex input - ie changing sim card, moving out the place he is living in etc.

I have had a gutsful of all the difficulties that this relationship has brought. I have never had this sort of problem before. I feel used and abused whole heartly. I am not relaxed in this relationship as I have been in others, I have a constant knot in my stomach (apprehension?). I feel that I am only there for his entertainment.

I am tired of dealing with a male who seems very self centred and careless for those who really care. He has yet to appologise for the Christmas issue.


What type of personality would this male be placed in? My thoughts is a perpetual emotional abuser and some one who likes to be the victim in all matters that arise. When I try and explain my emotions, all I get from him is "what about me, who is the victim here?". I am often cut short mid sentence or he diverts the conversation to a ground that revolves around him.

I need to cut ties, but I am worried about my safety.

Any thoughts on how I can deal with this man as to not prevoke him?

Would be grateful of some immediate help.

Alyesha