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Originally Posted by Angela 
For you, what is a person who can't say no Being? Weak, maybe? See if you can distinguish what that way of being is. Then take a look at yourself, and see where that way of being exists in you. (You can be confident that it does exist in you!)
What do you see? p.s...I'm slender.  |
It it ridiculously easy for me to say "NO" to anything external, like food, girls, money, good grades etc. I am very very self-restrained. Hence why I am little unsympathetic towards people who can't do this.
But, I have more difficulty saying "YES", which is why I have deep empathy for people who "just can't get moving". So, if I was fat and trying to lose weight, I would say "NO" to food, rather than eat and say "YES" to exercise.
But, if discipline is a muscle, which can get sore, and if "YES" and "NO" is how it is exercised, then it may actually be a good choice to say more regularly choose "YES" instead of "NO". When I say NO to something like girls or food (in favor of something more satisfying, like analysing the basis of counselling and obesity
), my muscle is exercised, and its remains flexed for long periods of time, which is draining. If I simply indulged myself, like the OBESE probably do, then my focus on what I'm doing will not so easily waver, my muslce will not be so tense from the constant repetition of "NO".
But, I dislike "giving in" to the instincts that test my discipline, no matter how draining. I am not going to chase every girl I know simply to get them out of my head (relieving the tension in my discipline muscle, so I can focus on what I want to focus on). BUT, I should probably be sympathetic towards obese people who take this route, with food instead of girls I suppose.
And Angela, it's good to know you're slender, very very good to know, brings up a good image in my head (Down boy, down, "NO", "NO", we barely know her)(Sorry for that, teenage hormones are still raging, a few years too long.)
