The thing you have to realize is that you can't be intimate with everyone. There are degrees of intimacy. The only person who knows ALL my secrets is my spouse. Then comes my mother, and sister (and I confide different things to each). Then a few close friends.
And then you have other friends and acquaintances and the conversation with them is mostly gossip, work, social chit-chat about music and the like.
It sounds to me like what you need is a spouse/partner. It's a mistake to try and force intimacy (as in confiding, not the physical version) with mere friends - they'll find it odd and back away from you.
I used to feel lonely too before I met my husband, because when you are single you often feel alone in crowds of people having "fun". This is kinda why the goal of most people is to find "The One" and settle down with them.
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