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Originally Posted by sadavis00  ... Hmm, writing this makes me think why I value the ability to say "NO" over the ability to say something "YES". There seems to be no reason to do this. |
Seems to be no reason, huh? Looks like you're having an insight here; heed it!
If you're only willing to respect the advice that comes from a person who is 100% free of being "psychologically troubled" as you put it, you're going to have an awfully hard time finding an advisor to respect!
Obesity, which represents for you an inability to say no, is a hotbutton issue for you. Another counselor, maybe one who is going through a divorce, or one who doesn't feel appreciated by society because she makes only $40k a year, might not spark the same reaction in you. But your issue is that you won't respect advice from a person
whom you went to for advice, because she shows up for you as someone who can't say no. You have adjudged that this person IS something, and you won't accept a person who is being that particular way of being.
For you, what is a person who can't say no Being? Weak, maybe? See if you can distinguish what that way of being is. Then take a look at yourself, and see where that way of being exists in you. (You can be confident that it does exist in you!)
What do you see?
p.s...I'm slender. 