Hey, sonicpunk, welcome to the forums!
You are mirroring, I think, but you would do well to look at yourself a bit deeper. It's not intimacy that is missing that would make a difference. Read your post as if you were a stranger and see the quality that is missing -- it's very easy for me to see, an outsider; it's always easier to see what others are up to, and much harder to see it in ourselves.
You are complaining that others lack the trust that is required for intimacy. But take a look at your original post. You have trust, alright -- trust that it's going to go wrong. Look at your post and your thoughts and how frequently your words reflect a deep and fervent attachment to disconnection. It's pretty amazing!
You ask why other people don't have the trust necessary to build a connection. It's not them; it's you. You are generating for yourself a world in which people are superficial, irritating, and wrong. You are looking for and finding validation for that point of view. People tend to find what they're looking for!
The good news is that if you're able to look boldly at what you're creating, then you're free to evaluate it and if it doesn't work in generating a life you love, you can try on a different way of being that might work better. You have gotten yourself into a downward spiral of negative thoughts about what other people "are" (I call that downward spiral the 'toilet bowl') and if you take 100% responsibility for creating a life you're in love with, you have all the power in the world to generate love, intimacy, trust, connection -- whatever you want to have. If you want to have something, BE it. Your habitual way of being is one that discourages intimacy, although you think you are encouraging it. You can get yourself on an upward spiral, if you take 100% responsibility.
Take a look. What do you think?
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