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Originally Posted by hollenes  First of all, know that if you were to break up with her, life goes on and you are still very young and would find someone else. Trust me.
Second of all, the feelings you feel for her are natural. It is easy to be jealous when she even thinks about another guy. If you are truly worried about it, I'd sit her down and have a serious conversation with her about him, and get the truth. If you want my opinion, I'd say she is telling the truth. If she did like him and everything, she would probably keep it a secret. I've seen this situation before, and in most cases, the girl sees the guy as a friend and the guy wants something more. This is a pure guess, however. James and her may truly just be friends. But I'd first and foremost just have a serious talk to her about it, in person.
And also, jealousy is a bad bad thing to have. If you truly love her then you musn't be so jealous. I know it can be really hard, but it is something you must overcome.
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Hollenes, Im doing what you said and am having a talk with her about him.
I told her to be completely honest and asked her if he likes her, and if she has any feelings for him. She said she doesnt know if he likes her, and that the doesn't have any feelings for him. So I said well lets act like he does like you, and i asked her how she felt about it. She said she doesnt care. And that he cant controll his feelings for her. So i told her she needs to talk to him and explain she doesnt feel the same way about him. She then told me to calm down, and i said i'm very calm (because i am) and all she is saying is that she or he cant control his feelings for her. So i say, well i dont know if he wants to be more than friends with you, but it seems like he does. and she said .....ok.
Well thats where we are right now.
O and i also found out that they have been calling each other and talking on the phone for a few weeks. Not just once, And she didnt tell me this, her friend did.