Anger needs to be expressed. When it's all tucked away inside you, bad stuff can start to happen. You might get sick, depressed, anxious, even develop bodily pains. Anger is the best tool we have to let us know
when we don't like part of our lives. It is critical emotional feedback that needs to be heard. Here's how I figure out what I'm angry about.
1. Freak out. Find somewhere secluded and just start going crazy. Yell about everything in your life that you hate, all that stuff that's making you rage inside. You'll find that once you get on a roll with this, a lot of stuff will come tumbling out.
2. Write. Keep a journal. Write down everything that gets to you, including the pressures you put upon yourself. A lot of people forget those. We push ourselves way too hard sometimes.
3. Talk. Being able to talk about what's angering you to somebody means you're coming to terms with the fact that this emotion is perfectly acceptable. A lot of people in this society think it's not, and they're wrong. Find someone sympathetic to the cause.
Start balancing your life with more things that
you enjoy to start to soothe some of that anger. Expressing it is good, but if you want to minimize the impact altogether, you need to have more fun. Go get a massage. Get soothed.
I've actually written a pretty extensive article about this. If you're interested, it's here:
TMS RECOVERY » Blog Archive » All About Rage
Especially read about the sources of rage, because it's important to identify all of them.
I'm currently recovering from a disorder caused by having
wayyyyy too much rage and too little soothe. You can ignore all the TMS jargon and focus on the emotional aspects of that article. I think you'll find it helpful.