Hey, welcome,
I do understand where you're coming from, sometimes I guess it can be hard not to feel insecure even with no solid reason to doubt your lover. One of the guys I'm dating now is a bit jealous, wants me to be with just him, and I'm not- yet; I appreciate the way he's handled his emotions- he doesn't deny them and pretend to not care when he does care, but he also has held back from acting jealous and upset with me- he owns his emotions and takes responsibility for them, lets me know how he feels- once- and sometimes is a bit quiet/sad, but doesn't overly question me or tell me what to do or talk about it constantly either. If you don't like her constantly texting with other people when she's interacting with you just because you want her full attention I can understand that- and if you feel certain actions are inappropriate you can calmly tell her how you feel and ask if she would not do certain things... but own your emotions and don't be accusatory or controlling- that's really where the problems start, not with a bit of normal insecurity, but in allowing the insecurity to influence you to treat her badly or push her away. Good luck with everything!
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