This is where relationships come in. I know Erin and I have become really good at helping each other become aware of our subsurface fears.
Another thing you can do is to ask yourself what you're afraid of in general. What do you avoid? What have you avoided in the past? That will often point you to the element that's blocking you.
Example: Most people are afraid of public speaking, but not necessarily for the same reasons. If you fear public speaking and figure out why, you may notice similar fears getting in your way in other areas, such as the fear of embarassment, fear of failure, fear that your skills aren't adequate, fear of being unprepared, etc.
"Feel the fear and do it anyway" is a valid strategy on its own, but only if you're actually getting to the "do it anyway" part, not just ignoring the fear and standing still. This can work OK for something like giving a speech, but when it comes to embracing and following your overall life purpose, this tactic tends to be unsustainable.
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