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marquiess · 12-27-2007, 06:56 PM

This is my first post on here. I consider myself to be able to deal with people and their problems and do what's best to resolve any situations.
At the moment I am having to consider doing what's right or lowering myself to another persons level. I work in an environment that requires teamwork to get the job done in an efficient and timely manner. There are a lot of people where I work and I would say i get on with at least 98%. One percent I don't need to communicate with and I steer clear of them. The other 1% or 1 person is known to be a 'tell tale' and I very often see them fraternizing with the supervisor. This person is female and considers herself a good worker, never lazy but very critical of others, especially me. She often watches me working and I sometimes hear that she has made a detrimental comment about me or my work ethics. In reality I don't need to hear from others what she has said but that's human nature I guess to stir up trouble. I am from another country and that is the only thing I can see that makes me different from others that work there although I am English speaking.
Anyway, at the beginning of my career at this employer the girl was really nice to me. She was training me to do my job as I was a newbie. Yes! I was a bit slow on the uptake but I put that down to my trainers inability to actually demonstrate correctly. Then gradually over time she spoke less and less to me but made more and more sarcastic comments to me or to others about me. This was totally uncalled for and unreasonable.
I don't remember offending her.
The supervisor put us together to work one day and that was very awkward but everything went well until there was a group of us together later on. At that time she made some sort of comment, can't remember what but it was nasty. She was nice to me when we were alone but as soon as there was an audience she turned on me and looked at the others as she was directing a comment at me. I don't understand what this is that she does.
Now I ignored this behavior initially but lately I find I am retaliating and commenting back. I don't like this either.
No others that I work with make any bad comments to me and I never hear rumors started from them. My instinct tells me to report this person to the supervisors but as I said before she fraternizes with one of them and this makes it difficult.
It doesn't matter how much I am nice to this person she has to slip a comment in at all times.
How should I be dealing with her? Should I speak to a supervisor and if so, what should I say that won't make me look bad? She has friends there and I am sure that if she is reprimanded then her friends will have to make me look like the bad guy. Is ignorance STILL the best policy?
Any tips or advice gratefully accepted.

12-27-2007, 06:56 PM	#1 (permalink)
marquiess Junior Member Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: USA Posts: 3	Awkward Workmates This is my first post on here. I consider myself to be able to deal with people and their problems and do what's best to resolve any situations. At the moment I am having to consider doing what's right or lowering myself to another persons level. I work in an environment that requires teamwork to get the job done in an efficient and timely manner. There are a lot of people where I work and I would say i get on with at least 98%. One percent I don't need to communicate with and I steer clear of them. The other 1% or 1 person is known to be a 'tell tale' and I very often see them fraternizing with the supervisor. This person is female and considers herself a good worker, never lazy but very critical of others, especially me. She often watches me working and I sometimes hear that she has made a detrimental comment about me or my work ethics. In reality I don't need to hear from others what she has said but that's human nature I guess to stir up trouble. I am from another country and that is the only thing I can see that makes me different from others that work there although I am English speaking. Anyway, at the beginning of my career at this employer the girl was really nice to me. She was training me to do my job as I was a newbie. Yes! I was a bit slow on the uptake but I put that down to my trainers inability to actually demonstrate correctly. Then gradually over time she spoke less and less to me but made more and more sarcastic comments to me or to others about me. This was totally uncalled for and unreasonable. I don't remember offending her. The supervisor put us together to work one day and that was very awkward but everything went well until there was a group of us together later on. At that time she made some sort of comment, can't remember what but it was nasty. She was nice to me when we were alone but as soon as there was an audience she turned on me and looked at the others as she was directing a comment at me. I don't understand what this is that she does. Now I ignored this behavior initially but lately I find I am retaliating and commenting back. I don't like this either. No others that I work with make any bad comments to me and I never hear rumors started from them. My instinct tells me to report this person to the supervisors but as I said before she fraternizes with one of them and this makes it difficult. It doesn't matter how much I am nice to this person she has to slip a comment in at all times. How should I be dealing with her? Should I speak to a supervisor and if so, what should I say that won't make me look bad? She has friends there and I am sure that if she is reprimanded then her friends will have to make me look like the bad guy. Is ignorance STILL the best policy? Any tips or advice gratefully accepted.