He really doesn't sound like a very good person. -_-
The hurt will stop if you forgive him and move on. Unfortunate things happen, and you're suffering because your mind is stuck in the past; stuck on all of the terrible things that have happened to you. You just have to come back into the present moment. Don't let your past drive you and choose your direction, you make your future right now, in the present.
I think your grandparents just want to help you, you should try and get yourself on the right track. There's other ways to be independent, you don't need to be a dancer.
And about how to forgive him and how to move on and live for yourself again... You must realize that the question you're asking is a distraction. It's like coming onto this forum and asking us "how do I walk through a door?" Well, you walk through the door. You are the only one that can do it, asking us how is just distracting you from getting up and walking through the door. How do you forgive him? Forgive him, that's how.
Perhaps you should think about what's stopping you from forgiving him and moving on with your life?
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