Franklin the voice inside your head is yours, it seems like it's not sometimes I know but it is and you can do what you want with it. It takes practice but you can make it more supportive and helpful simply be shifting the tonality, the pitch/tempo, the words it uses and even the place it comes from. You said it comes from the back of your head, try moving it to the side or front and see how that makes you feel. You can even change what it sounds like. If it currently sounds like you, maybe try giving it the voice of somebody that you know would support and encourage you.
Change the content too. Make sure it asks supporting questions like 'what can I learn from this?' 'How can I improve this?' and 'what else could this mean?' and never questions like 'why am I such a jerk?'
Start to learn reframing. It's great fun and can make you an expert at looking for the good in the bad and there is ALWAYS some good in there.
Finally try and get yourself a coach, preferably an NLP Master Practitioner that can work one-on-one with you and help you set yourself up for your future. |