The way I reconcile this problem is in the belief that the universe gives you want you need, which isn't necessarily what you want.
For example, in Jay Abraham's book Getting everything you can out of all you've got, he talks about how when a man goes into a hardware store looking for a drill, he doesn't really want a drill - he wants holes. Likewise, when a person wants to regrow a lost limb, he doesn't really want the limb back - he wants any number of things, maybe to be able to hold, to feel, to touch, to recover from the trauma of losing a limb. He might not get the hand back, but instead he might get a prosthetic limb that lets him pick stuff up, he might get some sort of experimental force feedback device that allows him to feel the sensation of touch again, etc etc.
I believe that the desire for flight is the same thing - you desire to fly, so you get on a plane, or a hanglider, or one of those awesome wingsuit thingies (yes, I know those last two aren't technically forms of flight, but they're close enough). It's not exactly how you imagined it, but you get what you asked for all the same.
Personally I think one of the main barriers to I-M is the concern with the how. It really doesn't matter how it happens, it doesn't matter if my soulmate looks or acts exactly how I imagine her - as long as she ticks all the right boxes it's fine by me. |