I have been thinking about the same issue for a while now. And yeah, anger needs to be expressed, but what also needs to be expressed is gratitude, they are linked. And both anger and gratitude need to be expressed, otherwise both these feelings are harmful.
In daily life, I used to take an infinite number of things to be "slights" against me, and I buried my anger against these slights. I took only a very few things to be "nice" things that happened to me, and I expressed by gratitude towards these things always.
What happens is that the positive tension of gratitude somewhat dissipates when it is expressed (like when I finally say "Thank you" for that unexpected favor). The negative tension of anger always remains, because it is difficult to express anger, relative to how easy it is to express gratitute (can't really say f**k to every person who looks at you crooked). What this means is that the default for anger is burial.
The easiest solution is to start burying both gratitude and anger (but that sounds weird). The problem with burying feelings is that powerlessness creeps in, feelings lose their original meaning, in the sense of them being a "call to action", towards gratitude or angry expression.
Another solution might what everyone else might suggest, and not bury either your gratitude (which is easy to do), or your anger (which is more difficult).
The thing about expressing anger is that it can get you into trouble, once the idea that anger=expression becomes ingrained, the mind may start to find fewer things to be angry about, ("maybe that guy looking at me with a grimace just had a bad day, lets hold off on the f**k off in situations situations like these"). I think for this to happen, the idea that anger is a "call to action", instead of a feeling to be "undergone", needs to be properly established.
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