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Originally Posted by MyBrainHurts  He said in critical tone that people think im a loser because of what I said about the salad part (" No body cares if you can make a salad, Nobody cares that you had verizon before you got a cingular phone.) People think you are a loser because you say those things.
I think im just going to blow it off and say "whatever" to the whole ordeal and just hang out with people who are no so critical. I guess sometimes you just need to give up and throw in the towel ;P.
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The difference between me and him is I try to understand who people are and he tries to judge who people are the word loser is such a judgment. I think we may always clash for this reason. |
I'm going to be honest with you, so just know that this is simply my opinion of a situation I know barely anything about, you don't need to take it to heart.
I think that it was probably wrong of him to say that in such a direct way, but there is some truth to his statement. Your small talk was harmless, and well-intentioned as far as I know, but stuff like that might give off a weird impression to others. If you want to make new friend with chit-chat, it's better to talk about them rather than yourself. Otherwise, you'll appear self-centered and unpleasant.
From everything you've been saying, you come across as a very unappealing person to me. It's as if you talk yourself up to reassure yourself that you are the better person in this ordeal, and that your friend is horrible and judgmental. You tell us about how wonderful you are, and all the great things that you do and why you do them, but in my eyes your tone is a tone of angst and struggle for superiority. You even came to this forum to get reassurance from other people about being correct, and it seemed like you were leading us on so that we would say "yeah, you really are such a wonderful person, and that friend of yours, wow, what a judgmental, critical, sorry excuse for a human being he is."
Well, to you I say lighten up. I don't blame your friend for telling you to go by yourself next time, I wouldn't want to spend time with you either. I think that you have an enormous ego, and your friend put a little hole in it with his remark, and now you're trying to blow it up again with a whole lot of hot air.
Remember, I don't know much about you, or much about anything really, these are just my impressions from this thread.