[Gordon]

Originally Posted by Catlover

Coaching can be very helpful if you can find a good match between your styles. I had a coach for awhile but ultimately found that her style and approach to things was vastly different than mine in many ways. She was in favor of "baby steps" whereas I lose motivation or can't even get started unless I'm doing something big with major results. She was very into "self care," which at times I thought was kind of self-indulgent and sometimes an avoidance tactic.

One way to check out a potential coach is to research what school or program he/she attended. Most likely, he/she will base their practice on the principles espoused by that program. Check out the program to see if those principles resonate with you. If, for example, like me you are not into "baby steps" but the program is, perhaps you need to keep searching.

Also, I think it is important to find someone who has been or is in a similar life situation to yours and has successfully dealt with it. For example, I have a school age child, whereas my coach's child was grown and had her own children. I think my coach had forgotten how to connect with the feelings of parenthood. Also, she had not worked recently (or maybe ever) full-time in the corporate world. There were things I wanted to talk about in these two worlds that she was just completely clueless about.

Good luck in your search.

This Catlover, talks common sense!!!!


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