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Originally Posted by Honeywith4bees  I wonder why it's not okay to be heartbroken and sad when you lose a love relationship. Obviously, it's more desirable to live your life free from pain and heartache, but I don't see anything wrong with being able to grieve over something lost.
I was very heartbroken when my Mother died, but I don't think it related to my level of self - esteem. Or maybe, were not talking about the same thing? |
Yeah, that is something different but similar. I do think there's a greving for loss not matter the level of self esteem.
I'm trying to understand the viewpoint of letting yourself show love or fall in love and how to not be worried about the heart ache. And specifically with a gf/bf or partner relationship. Some say it depends on being whole first then it doesn't hurt so much if it breaks up. Being whole first is self esteem. So if I hurt a lot after a break up, I have low self esteem? Or if I can't show love I'm fearing and holding back (which again is because of the low self esteem since the hurt will be more that the relationship provided something that helped raise feeling good about yourself).
How to be able to love fully without attachement so that there's no need to fear what it could feel like if it ended. Almost sounds circular. If you aren't attached to the love relationship then it doesn't matter if it ends. But if it doesn't matter if it ends - why are you in it?