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Originally Posted by JimOfferman  How would you define suffering?
Does it hurt when a love falls apart? Certainly. But that doesn't mean I'll suffer. I'd probably be sad for a little while or maybe even for a long while, but the hurt goes away quickly. My happiness is not and was not the result of the love that is past, but rather my happiness was one of the seeds that made that love possible.
I was happy before and I will be happy again afterwards. |
The suffering I allude to is having emotions that you would rather not have or that you would not have choosen to have. And having emotions that are too much to be able to find joy in the moment.
I'm wondering now about "broken hearts". That everyone has a different level of what it feels like to have a relationship fall apart or not work out. But what makes the suffering level different? One person is able to move on while one is freaking out.
Is the freaking out level of a broken relationship directly related self esteme? The less you feel whole on your own, the more suseptable one is to a suffering during heart break?