I'm digging the moustache!
Anyways, you're constantly focussing on the suffering of abuse and such. I don't know how this is for you in practical sense. But I do know I've been targetted for being myself for a loooongg time aswell. And then it just stopped, and that was the moment I stopped caring.
Now in your area this can be very different, but then again, why don't you move to a better place where you have cool people around you who enjoy you for who you truly are? But I don't believe this is needed for you to just relax and enjoy your own personality.
You say you don't do the things like pacifism to become something, but just because it gives you joy. Yet you change your personality to be accepted by others..... quite a big contrast going on right there.
I can't be bothered by how others think of me and how I choose to act. I might ask people for feedback from time to time, but then I can chose whether or not I can work with that feedback.
But if someone doesn't accept me for who I want to be, the contact is over. We are not here on the planet to be liked or accepted by others! The fact that you don't accept your own true personality is reflecting back to you in others. The non-caring attitude does SO MUCH about the way others respond to you.
Stop taking **** from others when you are your true self. If others have problems with who you are, **** 'em and move on to better people!