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Originally Posted by yossarian  BTW a hell of a lot of nerdy guys find shy girls cute. It's not really considered a negative trait. Shyness for a guy though is social suicide. You can see that in this thread for instance, all the guys are into Bliss Sage the shy girl  |
aww, thanks yossarian
... now shush, or you'll embarrass me
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Originally Posted by Spiritual I would just walsh over them, which is not bringing joy for her nor me. |
(I'll just ignore the rest of that paragraph
). THANK YOU,
this is exactly what I was trying to explain to Angela earlier.
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When a male is shy it can be a great match with another shy girl, they have things in common and understand each other. But when there is a really outgoing male/female, and the partner is shy, it can be really horrible for the latter.
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I agree! When your shy, what is one thing you do
not do? You
don't impose yourself on others, you don't compete with anyone else for attention, you don't force other people to listen to you, you don't try to shout above everyone else to be heard. Moreover, I think shy people tend to see what is going on in other people and actually care about it, for varying reasons, whereas people with dominant personalities are more occupied with what they're saying and doing and don't notice or care as much about what others are thinking or feeling about them. So, if you are with a dominant, loud, gregarious guy who is the "life of the party" and he is more interested in being the life of the party than paying attention to you, there is no good match. Additionally, he will drown you out. If I have a mild, sort of soft way of being, he will drown me out like fire-engine-red drowns out a pale pink. I just become an audience, even if a steady one, to his show. Maybe someone who is more like him could become part of his show.