I think the point I was trying to make is that if the shy guy could allow more closeness, he would get more girls. It's often not the girls who are not interested but the shy guy who can't avail himself of the opportunity of letting it happen.
It's not only talking about it or asking out, it has also a lot to do with body language. Shy guys tend to send many mixed signals, like "yes I'm interested, but I'm scared, and I want, but I don't want, and don't you come too close!" So what can a girl do in such a situation? Nothing but think "well... too bad..." We don't want to rape you either!
It's true that I don't know how it is in America. I can speak only for (western) Europe.
I don't know any Ned Flanders, would you please explain to me with words how you behave, and why this is doomed to be answered with abuse and degradation?