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yossarian · 12-21-2007, 01:32 PM

I used to be that guy.

Here's the thing... the girls are "fond" of him but how many would actually take it to the next level?

Girls tend to get with the guys they hate. You must have noticed this.. you have the violent rockstar who quite literally treats women like crap, and he is the guy women go home with. Then you have the "nice friend" sensitive guy who all the women say they like, but again, when push comes to shove he is left holding her purse while she has an exciting rendezvous with the violent jock.

Here's the catch-22, if that computer scientist could work up the nerve to actually tell a girl how he feels, he would no longer be shy, and therefore no longer be cute. It's really not healthy behavior. I basically AM that guy, btw. I'm older now so it's much less pronounced (plus I've learned to be a great faker which I'm not proud of) but that is basically me and it's not a fun life.

We computer scientists have a word for it, we call it the friend zone. It means unless we break out of that shy behavior we become 40-year-old virgins.

12-21-2007, 01:32 PM	#39 (permalink)
yossarian Senior Member Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: BC, Canada Posts: 851	I used to be that guy. Here's the thing... the girls are "fond" of him but how many would actually take it to the next level? Girls tend to get with the guys they hate. You must have noticed this.. you have the violent rockstar who quite literally treats women like crap, and he is the guy women go home with. Then you have the "nice friend" sensitive guy who all the women say they like, but again, when push comes to shove he is left holding her purse while she has an exciting rendezvous with the violent jock. Here's the catch-22, if that computer scientist could work up the nerve to actually tell a girl how he feels, he would no longer be shy, and therefore no longer be cute. It's really not healthy behavior. I basically AM that guy, btw. I'm older now so it's much less pronounced (plus I've learned to be a great faker which I'm not proud of) but that is basically me and it's not a fun life. We computer scientists have a word for it, we call it the friend zone. It means unless we break out of that shy behavior we become 40-year-old virgins. Last edited by yossarian; 12-21-2007 at 01:39 PM.