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Originally Posted by yossarian  Lots of girls have fantasies about the "shy" guy that is deep and sensitive and artistic, like Johnny Depp. But IMO that is not shy.
Shy is where you have nothing to say because you don't want to express your real personality due to fear. Shy is when you get embarassed and stare at your feet because of all the times you've been degraded when you open yourself to social situations.
I agree with the other poster (the musician, the ladies man who all the forum-women are fawning over) that there is a difference between shy and introversion. Shy is an expression of fear, introversion just means you enjoy your own company. |
Again, I don't agree.
Of course there's a difference between shy and introvert. I'm talking about shy guys, those who are afraid of showing themselves as they are. And I repeat, many women find such guys cute.
There's a guy I know from university who's shy. When I look at him, he blushes and looks out of the window and has trouble speaking. He's not in the slightest deep and artistic. He's a computer scientist thinking about programming all the time and his hobby is sports. And, you won't believe it, ALL girls I know at university are totally fond of that guy!
I don't know if the reason is his fear or that his great personality shines through even though he's afraid to show it. In my eyes, it's the latter. Plus, fear is not something a man should be despised for. Maybe that's a male idea, that men have to be strong and show no fear. But women think differently about it. At least, many of them do. A man can be scared AND very attractive
