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Originally Posted by yossarian  BTW a hell of a lot of nerdy guys find shy girls cute. It's not really considered a negative trait. Shyness for a guy though is social suicide. You can see that in this thread for instance, all the guys are into Bliss Sage the shy girl  Shy girls = cute. Shy guys = creepy/feminine. |
Dude you got a hell of a lotta premade believes that are just so FAR from the truth. I can not judge your true personality, if it's mere outgoing and people can't handle it, you've been hanging out with the wrong lot. If your true personality means that you only want to have the attention fixated on you and what to be in the spotlight, than that is not your true personality either.
Being outgoing and selfconfident will far from make folks insult you. I can understand your experience taught you that, but it really is far from the truth.
And you're saying that shy girls are cute, but really I couldn't disagree more with that. I guess you were joking about Bliss Sage, but I think you also see it as a truth. But to be honest with you, girls like Bliss Sage (and I don't want to put her in a box by any means), don't attract me for one single bit. Shy girls are just no "match" for me, I would just walsh over them, which is not bringing joy for her nor me.
When a male is shy it can be a great match with another shy girl, they have things in common and understand each other. But when there is a really outgoing male/female, and the partner is shy, it can be really horrible for the latter.
There has to be a balance for both parties to be happy.