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Originally Posted by Rose of Cairo  Hi Sindre,
I'm sorry for you. I know how that is, I had the same with my bf. He couldn't understand how I could do something as stupid and crazy as breake off my studies, refuse to take a job, be unemployed and eat up my savings in order to spend my time learning some esoteric stuff, "find my purpose" and be self-employed, without even knowing as what I wanted to be self-employed. He wanted me to study, get a job and be reasonable. He got angry at this "stupid forum" too and just couldn't accept me changing so much. We're separated now, but that's probably not what you wish to hear 
I don't know how to deal with that problem, sorry. Maybe you could make it clear to her, in a kind way, that your choices are your own responsibility, not hers?
And that's her responsibility, not yours  You have no work to do with her at all, that's not your job. It's her decision to live more consciously or not, it has to come from her, don't try to get her to do something because you want her to change. Accept her as she is, or leave.
Sorry sounds harsh... I wish you all the best for you and your girlfriend and I hope you'll resolve the conflict 
edit: ah, too late! well, I just wish you good luck then |
No, no, it's never too late. A reply is always appreciated
I'm sorry to hear about that you're separated, but I guess it was for the best? Hope so anyway, there's probably a meaning behind it.
I'm not fearing a separation in my situation right now. We have a good relationship. If it's meant to be, it's meant to be. No matter if we live happily the rest of our lives, or if we sometime in the future will go our separate ways.
Of course it's her responsibility, and as I said: I'm not trying to push it on her. What I meant was, that I have a big job bringing her the message and making her more conscious. Not forcing her to be more conscious, or trying to change her in any way. But simply letting her know that there's probably a better way of living life, even for her. Or just understanding how I am thinking. She doesn't need to be totally changed as a person, to just understand a few things better.
It's like Paul said... Maybe I must take 100 steps before she takes 1. But that's perfectly OK. I will make my own choices about my career anyway. She realizes this, and she is now waiting in excitement for my "big accomplishes"
