Fraj, having integrity is like being pregnant -- you either are or you aren't.
In this case, integrity is more than just avoiding this woman or boning her. Integrity means keeping your word, or renegotiating in good faith. It means being straight with people -- it doesn't sound like you've been straight with your wife, and maybe not with the Other Woman, either.
You say you're failing in your attempt to lean towards integrity -- what does that mean?
By the way, I'm not telling you that you have to or even "should" behave with integrity. It is a choice; one that in my experience, makes life work much better; but it's your personal choice to make and I'm not judging you, whatever you choose. I realize you're in a tough spot. |