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Originally Posted by frajilthunder  She was unfaithful to me about 10 years ago, came clean herself because she realized the story was about to break. |
Ah, the plot thickens. Well, that sounds like I am taking this whole situation really lightly which is not what I intend, but really it seems like this probably has more to do with what's going on now than you might think. How fresh is the pain of what happened back then? Is it something you still think about a lot? The feeling that turnabout is fair play will ruin a relationship.
Also, check out what wolfgang wrote. He seemed to get ahold of the fact that you were more looking for understanding and a way to asuage the feelings and desires than anything else. It seems you would prefer to be faithful to your wife
and also not feel the way you do about this other woman. That's a tough one. I am not sure I have the answer to how to get rid of the feelings regardless of what you decide to do.
Doing the honorable thing is a matter of choosing to do it or not. You decide if you want to be honorable or not and then follow through accordingly. Being up to it or feeling like it has nothing to do with it, in my opinion.