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Originally Posted by wolfgang  It sounds like the OP is not going to do the sexual wandering that is a temptation. He's not looking for reasons not to do this, he's looking for how to alievate the temptation. At least I think that's where the OP is coming from but we haven't seen any replies for clarifying the situation. |
Exactly. I've pretty much decided I'm not going to do this, but I can't talk myself out of wanting to anyway.
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Originally Posted by wolfgang What about looking at what the temptation means in a spiritual way?
If you look at the situation as a reflection of your inner self - what is being reflected to you?
What does it mean to be presented with something that looks like something you want that you cant' have?
What are you learning to resist the temptation?
How will that make you stronger?
I don't know the answers to that but would be asking myself those if I was you.
Ultimately it doesn't matter if you have an affair or not for what you can learn from this situation. But the route of an affair will make the lessons much more painful to everyone. But in fact, you have partly gone down the road - it's starting to be an emotional affair, I'd say. |
Thanks for that. I don't have answers for now but that looks like a good direction to take. And yeah, it's like an emotional affair I guess. I feel guilty for letting it get that far, but at the same time it's exiting, like how close can I get to the edge without falling off.