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Originally Posted by Sindre  My girlfriend was "partially joking and partially serious" when she said that I was beginning to act "crazy" and was fearing that I'm getting brainwashed by Steve and this forum, and compared it to some kind of sect... 
I have a hard time explaining to her that we're not crazy, just seeing things clearly. This personal development-stuff IS pretty new for me, I'm just getting started. So she sees a bit different side of me than she has before. In a way I can perfectly understand that she's worried.
She is so sceptical to everything on the internet, and insist "you must not believe everything you read" and so on.
I need advice. I've tried to be gentle when I've talked about this. Things like the Law of Attraction and why I don't need a job, when I could rather start my own business, and so on. She would rather see me in a regular job, than doing something as "insane" as trying to think for myself and create something on my own.
I truly wish she was more open-minded. I have a lot to work with here, to get here to live more consciously too. At the same time, I don't want to push anything on her.
Anybody else here experienced the same kind of problems? How can this be solved? I would really appreciate some advice.
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I'm married, been with my wife for 11 years, and had similar issues early on in my relationship. I wish I could give you an easy path out. Chances are she will never understand your new found path until it starts to produce results for you. She probably cares for you a lot and she just doesn't want to see you get hurt. Kind of like an overbearing mom who won't let her son play soccer because he might fall down and scrape his knee.
Make the decision to committ to a life of personal development and personal growth and make it clear to any partner you have in life that you will always work on yourself no matter what and always experiment, try new things, start businesses, try figuring out what you love to do etc. Explain to them that the standard life of a 9-5 until 65 job makes you want to throw up, and that you will never settle for that. Ambition is something we are cursed/blessed with and it never goes away.
Don't try to change her, allow her to follow her own path, but dedicate yourself to yours. I would has that 90% of the problems I went through were a result of me trying to "change" my wife to my new way of thinking. It's like when I took a step forward, I wanted her to take a step forward with me, but she wasn't ready. Sometimes you need to take 3 steps forward, or 10 steps forward, or even 100 steps forward before your partner takes 1 step. Eventually they do follow, as they begin to feel the positive energy you radiate and they are drawn towards it.
Conquor your fears, work on yourself, become a super positive person, radiate positive energy, and accept your partner for who they are without trying to change them at all. Only then will they feel the secure, loving environment they need to start to change themselves. It won't happen if you try to push them.
Sometimes you don't need to share very detail of every business idea you have with your partner either. Get a journal today and start writing in it. Keep it private just to yourself. You may be telling your partner business ideas as a way to get acceptance because you don't really believe in them yourself, and your partner can smell that a mile away. You may need to work with a coach/mentor instead. Someone who has taken the path ahead of you and can be that sounding board and faith instiller for you. Life partners don't always make the best business coaches, so don't try to use your girlfriend for that.
These are a few suggestions I would have for you.