Well, at risk of getting lapidated...
It's a fact that such situations frequently happen. I think what the OP feels is just normal, because IMO monogamy is totally unnatural in the long term.
Still, frajilthunder, you agreed to be in a monogamous relationship, so now you have to find a solution based on that. It's your decision. Ask yourself what is more compatible with your values. Are you clear about your values?
I don't agree that you have any responsibility for that other woman though. She knows that having an affair with a married man means that he may not leave his wife, and that she's probably going to have a lot of trouble. That's her problem, not yours.
But I don't agree to judge her or give her any fault either. It's frajilthunder's decision. Nobody threatens him with a gun and forces him to have an affair or to flirt with her. What he makes with his relationship is alone his responsibility, no matter how many sexy women are trying to seduce him.
Additionally, as far as he wrote, she's just flirting with him. I don't know how that is in the US, but at least here flirting is no biggie. It doesn't mean that she would be ready to do anything more.
I have no problem with flirting with married men. It's just a game. If that's not ok in their relationship, they don't have to do it, so why should I go around and take some responsibility for other people's relationships? It's none of my business.  |