It sounds like the OP is not going to do the sexual wandering that is a temptation. He's not looking for reasons not to do this, he's looking for how to alievate the temptation. At least I think that's where the OP is coming from but we haven't seen any replies for clarifying the situation.
What about looking at what the temptation means in a spiritual way?
If you look at the situation as a reflection of your inner self - what is being reflected to you?
What does it mean to be presented with something that looks like something you want that you cant' have?
What are you learning to resist the temptation?
How will that make you stronger?
I don't know the answers to that but would be asking myself those if I was you.
Ultimately it doesn't matter if you have an affair or not for what you can learn from this situation. But the route of an affair will make the lessons much more painful to everyone. But in fact, you have partly gone down the road - it's starting to be an emotional affair, I'd say.  |