This must be a difficult situation for you. You seem very determined to build your career yet you don't want to damage your relationship with your husband.
You should be able to follow your dream and throw yourself into your career with your husband's support. He should understand that it is important to you and that you must do what makes you happy. He shouldn't stand in your way even if he doesn't agree with you. He should encourage you and share in your happiness rather than try to mould you into something he thinks you should be.
Assuming he is a reasonable man, perhaps you can come to some sort of compromise, for example, he leaves you to work between certain hours, as if you were working at a job outside of your home, and you cater to his needs outside of those hours. If he is resistant maybe you could enforce this by locking yourself in your office or creating some other physical barrier.
You could simply tell him that you're going to work on your career whether he likes it or not. If he doesn't like it, he will either have to get used to it, or lose you. If he is likely to end the relationship because of your choices, then is he worth staying with anyway? In my experience, it's not worth staying with someone who asks you to sacrifice what's important to you. |