I understand that feeling. I am chroniclly ill. I can not live in the nice house the rest of my family lives in. I get comments, like why do you not buy a house, your almost 40,... and it is hurtful. Poeple judge others in that they expect everyone to connect to thier way of thinking, based on thier experiences. They look at others from thier own viewpoint, and judgement is passed , from what the judger has concluded, and expects that other people
should come to the same concluions despite the fact that the judg-ee , has had a different series of experiences.
It is hurtful, but you just have to remember that most people can be very involved in ego. The world revolves around thier way of thinking, as much at it hurts, remember you are here , for your own experiences. Acknolege that mabey they just havn't grown in that particular area. I look at it like this,
Would I rather be where I am now, ill, broke, and looked down on for it,
or the one who is looking down on someone else, without knowing what it is like to experience what I have, and pass jusdgement. Ill take number one, thanks
But that attitude has tought me compassion for people that I find untolerable, or hurtful. They are on their own journey. I can forgive an abusve father by this way of thinking. A lot of times too when people cut down others, it is their fear. I have a relative that critisizes me for being ill.
She does not even believe I am , despite the fact I was paralized, and had a diagnosis. But she has never known illness, and I suspect fears it, so it must not be real in me, or that would make it more real to her, and that scares her. So it is easier to lash out at what we are afraid of.