Thank you all for your input this really helps.....
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What you say makes sense except you mention you were 15 I don't know if you agree but that is probably closer to puppy love and can be easily mistaken for the real thing. Since I am more than 10 years older than that Im pretty confident on how I feel about this. Hope that makes sense!
I agree with you on countless levels! I have no idea how it would be if we were actually living with each other. That has crossed my mind. This can help me determine that though: We have the same view point on family, kids, religion, lifestyle, finance, even politics. Throw in the chemistry and that sounds like a match made in heaven
. Oh and don't forget we knew each other for 2 years before he got married. As far as living adjustments like taking out the trash, if something so minor needs to be taken into consideration then no one should get married! These are small adjustments....
Heres another theory I have: Pretty much everyone meets someone that alters their world (again I relate this to the strength of chemistry) but it is so sad because the intense feelings that come with that are sometimes too hard to handle so thats why most couples cant make it, its too hard. The strong feelings bring out each persons issues and insecurities (which is what you said and is so true). If each person can face there own issues and grow in the relationship then you have a fighting chance. But a lot of times it ends up falling apart. With me it's too late even though Ive grown and he's seen that, but as you said, he is attached.
"what could have been" their is nothing that can be done. I know this. The part I am having the hardest time with is that the level of chemistry and attraction we shared is one I dont see ever being matched much less surpassed.
You are so true in what you say. The best thing any person can do for themselves is to fall in love with themselves and take action in their own life. I am a college student pursuing a degree in psychology. I love the idea of counseling people one day. I am working and I have wonderful friends who I am constantly around. I eat helathy and workout. I am doing everything and anything I can to feed my soul. BUT....
Everyone has a dream and everyone has a life goal. Mine just so happens to be a fantasy of marrying the man that makes my heart skip a beat even when Im 60, and with that man I build the most loving caring home imaginable with my children. Some people fantasize about big careers or a vacation home I dream of making chocolate chip cookies with my babies while Im on the phone with my husband whos going to be running late for dinner. Yes my silly dream is a family. This is the only thing on this earth that can make me the happiest I can ever feel. So how am I supposed face the fact that what I want won't be fully complete??? I already know that the connection I have with this person can never be matched (and no I dont mean I wont find someone like him, thats not it at all) I just dont believe I can find that strong of a CONNECTION again. I don't see myself getting married to someone unless I feel for them at that level so that single-handedly crushes my dream. Until now I haven't been able to find anyone who can give me a strong enough arguement to prove that otherwise.....I was hoping to achieve that through this thread.
Thank you all for your feed back its very helpful!