In fact, I'm 100% sure that people who have kids know things about having kids that I, as a childless person, don't know! It would be a bit odd to argue the contrary.
My only point (offered originally in a truly constructive spirit, so I don't want this to degenerate into an argument) is just that focusing on a circumstance of one's life, and thinking of it as eliminating the time needed to experience growth in one's life, might be an unfruitful way to look at the situation. I'm not sure that adopting a growth orientation takes time, per se. I increasingly think it is more about your framework for viewing the life you have. I certainly haven't reached some amazing perfect way of doing this myself yet. |