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Originally Posted by Rose of Cairo  Of course if during an interesting conversation such questions arise naturally, well, ok.. but if some guy asks me such things and it's a bit too obvious that he wants to know how I am, I would feel checked. I tend to have a very unpleasant feeling when I notice that someone is trying to find out how I am and maybe if we would be a good match. |
Hey, Rose, questions can arise naturally and be thought about beforehand, too!
It sounds like you're saying that you don't want it actually acknowledged on a date that you're looking to see if you're a good match? Don't you think it's a good idea to find out about your date "how he is"? I think you and I might be thinking of two different approaches to dating, and maybe part of that is cultural. I'm thinking about a person who consciously wants to create a loving, long-term, mutually beneficial relationship with velocity, and wants to be powerful and effective in doing so. This may be very American of me, though!
