I think Pam is right on the dot here. The movie The Secret brings an interesting perspective to this that was also touched upon in Steve's and other PD speakers' messages. The perspective is that whatever happens in your life, you attracted it to yourself; the neighbourhood, money, friends etc. Obviously as with all things this isn't an absolutely universal rule as I'd argue that you didn't necessarily attract your family or what kind of people they were before you were born, but once you gain enough consciouness, afterwards you can make change happen.
If someone is really affecting you that badly, ask them to stop. You can start nicely if you aren't a firm person like myself, but if they don't stop, tell them more abruptly. Afterwards, just distance yourself from that person.
Of course there are many other factors such as, if it's family, you probably might not want to shut them out of your life right away or even forever. But you have to let them know that that kind of behaviour is not welcome and if it's really hurting you emotionally (especially if physically), you will not be able to spend your time with them.
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