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Originally Posted by Honeywith4bees  I don't love my work. I work because I want the paycheck and the self esteem that I get from knowing that I don't need to be a "welfare mom". Every thing that I LOVE doing are hobbies, they wouldn't allow me to support four kids. Welfare wouldn't allow me to support four kids either. And I don't get child support. I understand that I am wasting my potential here at a job I don't love, but until my kids are grown, I don't feel like I really have a choice! |
Hi, Honey.
I know my father lost his job and then refused to do anything that was "beneath" him. He hasn't worked since. I never appreciated the fact that he wouldn't work at the grocery store or drive a bus for the sake of his children. He didn't give my mom child support, either, and I always thought that was wrong. So I can certainly understand where you're coming from, Honey. You don't want your children's well-being to be compromised.
However, on the other hand, I wouldn't have wanted my father to be stuck at a paycheck job he hated for years on end. I would assume that that could have affected us as children as well. I guess the ideal situation would be to do your paycheck job while building the skills and/or client base to do what you want. How you would do that depends upon what your specific situation is, and what those hobbies of yours are.
At any rate, if your kids are old enough to understand the kind of work you do for them, they'll heartily appreciate your effort, Honey.