Being shy can have two ways it goes.
Shy because of insecurities.
Or shy because you aren't one to need attention.
If one is insecure then the shyness behaviour is a symptom of worring about what other people think and it's hard to connect with people.
If one is not seeking lots of attention, the shyness behaviour around that is peaceful to be around and people of this type of shyness don't have trouble connecting with people.
I think the qualities of being secure/insecure is more the issue of effectiveness in making connections with people than shy versus gregarious. Put it this way, one can be shy and be either secrue or insecure. Or one can be gregarious and be either secure or insecure. Of those combos, shy w/security and gregarious w/ security are good at connectin. Either one of the insecure types have trouble.
A gregarious insecure type will be the life of the party but not able to give space to let people connect will since they are tyring to get attention to feed insecurities.
A shy insecure type will not even want to be in the open, such that people can't even try to connect to them. The insecurities in this case makes the person shy away.
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